The roller coaster ride of fostering.

You never really know what is coming next as a foster carer, I suppose thats one of the positive thingss about doing it - and a bloody huge negative too!!!!






Planing on going out tonight? Of course you are!!! Not the romantic meal you planned though but a till 3 am jaunt to the Police station with the beered up teenie who has just tried to fight half the town.


Anyway,  I digress, Laddo is supposed to be going Monday to stay with his Brother till Wednesday and then move on to another placement except there does not seem to be one.



All change, this morning he phoned his bro who would not speak to him instead getting his girlfriend to tell Laddo they had no money so he could not come after all.


Ho hum.

Now, call me suspicious but bro knows there is no where for him to go Wednesday either and perhaps had visions of Laddo being dumped on him for a few weeks while SS dither about  looking for somewhere for him to go.

We had this sort of thing in mind as well and I thought it might be a good idea for  me, with the student being in Uni and all to go out somewhere and "forget" to take my mobile phone. 



Then things took a turn for the unbelievable. Now, as I said laddo is very immature and really wants his mum and dad back together so he has tried all ways to sabotage their new relationships. Being a step parent can be no fun at all sometimes, and I could write a book about it. The book would need to be a best seller though to buy me a house after the student read it and kicked me out. 

Anyway this is not about me it's about laddo, his step mum has stepped into the breach and said, yes he can go and live with his dad for a while. BUT, of course this is where it gets good, there are a whole list of things he is going to be doing and, a whole list of things he is not going to be doing.

This includes things like doing as he is told and being polite.

His dad really gave it to him straight, there are lots of things in life you may not want to do, or get told to do, but that's tough. you just have to get on with it. I think he might have used the "being grown up" phrase too.

SW has real issues and concerns about Dad and dad also lives bang in the middle of the area where he is being hunted. I wonder if there is mileage in this, after all when we dig a hole we cannot always walk off and dig another,  sometimes we have to deal with the mess we make, it's called growing up and it's called learning from your mistakes. 
 
Do looked after children and in fact children get protected so much these days that they cannot manage risk....


answer in no more than 3000 words.....


I have essays on the brain...