The students mum has gone - life has gone very complex as there is a family with a range of agendas.
The little D situation is further along, I think, than anyone realises, college have no intention of offering him a course next year, well, so I reckon, this means, leaving care will drop him also. He will get a minimal service.
His fostering allowances will stop which will be OK as we will not be expected to support him, meaning we can go out to work or do other things.
Trouble is without that support he will not manage at all, without us on the end of the phone to the Police or college it will fall to Social Services who will make sure they are not answering the phone or making decisions.
So things will fall apart for the lad, unless we step up to the mark which we will only be able to do if Social Services support us to do so.
We don't do it for the money but we can't afford to do it without the money.
I think their thinking is, if he is pulled back into county it will be easier, when things go wrong he will not have two seriously stroppy advocates to take them to task. That's very true, but actually we have a back up plan for ourselves and they might not be dealing with strong advocates but loose cannons.
The sad thing is that this has made the ending of the students mums life so much more traumatic, D's behaviour, has simply not touched him in terms of what it means more than 5 minutes ahead. It has stopped the student having that space to reform.
Spelt out yesterday he was scared and horrified, but, sadly there are tipping points, the law they have ignored themselves says that post 16 he must......
They have totally failed to deliver what the law requires them to do but are pretty confident in what the law says that at this stage in his life they can stop doing.
So it's one law for them and one law for him.
R
The little D situation is further along, I think, than anyone realises, college have no intention of offering him a course next year, well, so I reckon, this means, leaving care will drop him also. He will get a minimal service.
His fostering allowances will stop which will be OK as we will not be expected to support him, meaning we can go out to work or do other things.
Trouble is without that support he will not manage at all, without us on the end of the phone to the Police or college it will fall to Social Services who will make sure they are not answering the phone or making decisions.
So things will fall apart for the lad, unless we step up to the mark which we will only be able to do if Social Services support us to do so.
We don't do it for the money but we can't afford to do it without the money.
I think their thinking is, if he is pulled back into county it will be easier, when things go wrong he will not have two seriously stroppy advocates to take them to task. That's very true, but actually we have a back up plan for ourselves and they might not be dealing with strong advocates but loose cannons.
The sad thing is that this has made the ending of the students mums life so much more traumatic, D's behaviour, has simply not touched him in terms of what it means more than 5 minutes ahead. It has stopped the student having that space to reform.
Spelt out yesterday he was scared and horrified, but, sadly there are tipping points, the law they have ignored themselves says that post 16 he must......
They have totally failed to deliver what the law requires them to do but are pretty confident in what the law says that at this stage in his life they can stop doing.
So it's one law for them and one law for him.
R
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